I have a dear friend walking her days with a very serious illness. No one but God knows what the outcome will be.
Sitting with her this week, she had a lot of questions for me…about Keith’s last months and days. She is exploring and preparing for what may be.
I knew the questions were coming. I knew she was thinking. I was blessed to be able to share. Keith would approve, too. He loved this dear woman, too.
The talk went fairly smoothly…not too many tears from either of us. I told her some things that the average person does not know about that last day…some even my family does not know. That day was hard, personal, and very private in some ways.
This dear, sweet, Christian lady told me again and again that she is not sure what she is supposed to do. She said she keeps asking God, but is just not sure what to do. I gave her some form of answer, but felt there was more to say.
I have thought about that statement all week and have come to some conclusions, which I am sharing with you all…and with her.
Sometimes being is enough.
We are go-getters, especially as Americans, I think. We feel that we need to be doing, acting all the time. I think part of it comes from all the opportunities we have here…constant entertainment, work, activities for ourselves and our families.
It is hard for us to be still and know that He is God. But sometimes that is all we can do.
Be still. Know.
This precious lady is in the palm of God’s hand. He has her. He has this illness. He will heal her — this side of Heaven or that. In that she can rest and just be.
She can be other things, too, even from her sick bed: wife, mother, grandmother, friend, sister.
The bottom line is that none of us is guaranteed tomorrow. None.
I have a couple dear friends who lost their spouses in the conflicts in Iraq and Afghanistan. They had more of an inkling, perhaps, that something could happen. I have other friends whose spouses took some sort of a trip (fishing or to the dump) and never came back. Others faced longer sickness, multiple tests, lingering, and finally failing, hope of healing here on earth.
That is life here. Death happens. To some sooner than others. To some with more warning than others. To all eventually.
We all face the life-and-death questions that this sweet sister faces, whether we realize it or not.
This is not scary…or shouldn’t be. God’s got it. He is in control. His Word says that again and again.
And sometimes all we can do is be…and the most important thing we can be is His child.
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. – Jeremiah 29:11